Ultimately, it’s tied to a primary function of dreaming: to harmonize and unite the conscious mind with the unconscious mind. I rejected most of my stepfather’s persona and has been my shadow work for sure. Go, go deeper to what is it? spk_0:   49:12And you know, it’s interesting if you if there is past lives and we believe in past lives, that love is what we carry through the lives, and it’s not in that person. That other person that were experiencing. And so when I grew up. It’s not gonna change. He identified four levels of animus development in a woman, as follows: 1) Man of mere physical power And so you’re split amongst yourself. In a marriage it is always the contained who projects this image upon the container, while the latter is only partially able to project his unconscious image upon his partner. The way he saw it was that duality off day and night. It’s all there. And they. Now, this eternal. I met my maternal grandfather first. And if you just want shadow work, our mentors air here in the group, they’re really ready to take you on. spk_1:   55:32Yeah, and and so the only the only problem is it. The animus … Stage 4: Female as creative/ spiritual guides: She challenges him to find meaning/ love from a source other than a woman. You know all those things, like be sweet and nice and kind And boys air don’t cry, Don’t do this So a lot of our emotional of men, A lot of their emotional, um, tendencies get pushed in the in their shadow. The Divine Other - Anima/Animus in Intimate Relationships. And so it’s about really being honest with yourself and sitting with Is this really my choice? First, she would have to do to her shadow work and then understand her, her patterns and the and not just understand. On one side, I have the same fear of relationship that double describe that I would be trapped and die. It feels as though you’ve had many, many lifetimes together because you’re really connecting to the eternal part of yourself. Well, what happened was that it’s the animus that your that you think is experienced in another life is. It’s already got its agenda, but the way it plays out is often associated with the father. And so it’s, I guess it’s like surrounding the ego, but it’s understanding the ego. We’ll try toe, go around it, it will justify. But we didn’t realize it cause as kids, we see one perspective. What is? But it’s this anima animus, this energy that we carry, so it’s not that it can be found. It’s the same thing with the with their ego. Well, I like calling it the divine other because it’s really when we truly fall in love. Often there’s a theme of Ah, betrayal. And so we have this force in this desire. And if you’re not sure, or your, um, non binary and all those, you have to discover what you have in your unconscious, which which side it would be. It has a, you know, kind of ah ah will of its own in a way. He’ll slam the door. But we know inside. And I guarantee you, most people would say, Yeah, I think I would like that. Because stay at home Mom is the one that it’s waiting for the father and, you know, to, spk_0:   57:10and submissive to the man and and or even just open to letting the man. Jung believed that nested inside the shadow are the qualities of our opposite gender. I have nowhere to go. For the first time in my life, I knew I was fully and completely ready for marriage, because I worked through the fears and myths. Robbie accepts my clumsiness and ah, and that we is like that self acceptance on a deep level, not the persona acceptance, but that self acceptance that bill puts an opening for that other person to come in. So I think a lot of people get stuck, is trying to fix their ego when there’s this whole vast like we talk about the of our psyche and other parts of ourselves that are so much bigger than the ego that we could use on. It has to do with what do you identify with in your mother and what do you reject about her? It’s okay for you to be, you know, stupid sometimes or clumsy. Understand how your personal history influences your Anima or Animus and how you can transform your relationships to create a more conscious bond and attraction. And then also, this is going to be on our podcast as well. So it wants to talk it out and we talk about it with our friends, and we’re like, Oh, and Jimmy, you know what he did and we’re rationalizing and your friends are all going, Yeah, you know, that’s it. I gotta find it. In a marriage it is always the contained who projects this image upon the container, while the latter is only partially able to project his unconscious image upon his partner. The animus in women isn't so much a soul figure, as the anima is in men. And Ah, for some women, it’s riding that force. Jung called the Animus the archetype of meaning and the Anima the archetype of life. spk_0:   40:08Well, she would have to work with her shadow. They were all female until they the DNA switched two male. We make the other person that container for all our you know, salvation. You know, I think personal development has had a bad rap. A lot of people think, Oh, this is part of their personality. One might argue that the i… The information listed below is the most fascinating and comes from the book “Integral Relationships: A Manual for Men” by Martin Ucik. Whatever the we didn’t like. The cranky old man you know on that nothing’s ever good and we’ve all had those moments. Touch it because it’s like a week I think of it is in a weakening in awakening the anima animus with me fall in love. Well, I think that you’re describing basically the ego working its way through love, and it doesn’t necessarily have to be that way. You’re not going to be a threat if they’re always running away. It’s like this force was like, Hold like, you know, there’s the Shadow was saying No, no, no. But as you go through this individual ation process, essentially what you’re learning all the range of emotions in the psyche and and how to play them like an instrument. Believe Well, you know, use whatever force he needs. But no, Debbie, you don’t understand. What Are The Anima And The Animus? spk_1:   7:24So? She’s wonderful. And as an adult. They kind of they can. spk_1:   32:33right? It’s part of your psyche that you have already. OK, that’s fine. That’s the tricky part that on the surface, they make sense because you you rationalize them and you come up with his little narrative as to why you’re choosing those things. We’re going to talk about dreams. So the next technically should be my third after awakening and feel that I will definitely recognize my projections. Because every relationship is the right relationship. So again we go deep into this work. So don’t think of it is. So when we talk about the anima animus, how would you define that? Teoh remove that energy and women. It simply goes into our personal unconscious. Now that’s always here. spk_1:   1:36right? We talked about that. So when that force, it will connect you to someone who accepts all of you if you accept all of you, so it’s the external conflict is always reflecting the internal conflict. That’s beyond the persona, ego, personal history, shadow. Then at age one or two, I met my father and then that had a stepfather. spk_1:   13:00Yes, Oh ah, the you mentioned the personal history and that that’s an important piece because it does play into the way we choose our mates. That’s loan? It’s it’s the shadow. And so, um like, I don’t know past lives and all those things. What are Anima and animus? It’s so, um so what does falling in love mean in the animal? spk_1:   1:4:46Okay? - Psychological wounds and shadow. We have the four personas that women take on, and they’re based on the four feminine archetypes the mother, the lover, the professional and the mystic. Because go for the wrong person because there’s no chance for them to threaten you. Each person is in the process of integrating the opposite masculine or feminine energy. We went a weakened, but we also wanna we have toe, you know, face the dark parts of our shadow the parts and hide all the gold that we have inside. Let’s look and not from a fixing place but a self awareness and help the person see, like, kind of late, lift the veil of of ah, misperception and see what’s really there. The map of the soul. And in some of the, uh, Hindu traditions, the shock D and the Shiva shock to being the female principle. We talked about this on our last podcast about the spiritual journey in love. Stage 2: Male as father God or King: She want’s his approval. I said, Grow up with, like, you said, that that distrust student up man or abandonment of the feeling of abandonment. And so that’s what I kept creating. Does it cross fear? Its function is to keep us alive and safe. This isn’t what we train in a coaching program is how toe haven’t help people see that reflection like an X ray machine and say, Oh, I see this clearly. Let’s say extreme examples of people that are unconscious. Below are the five levels of Anima and Animus in men and women. But they’re actually right for us because the reflecting her pattern. Often we go outside ourselves to find our love or happiness in a person and /or a relationship. And, um, it’s just it’s just amazing journey, I hope, uh, if this calls to you, I hope you join us because it’s going to change your life. We like to sit around and we like to analyze. Ship work is before you. spk_1:   53:52Because, um, let’s let’s say the the animus anima. Yeah, you will see, just like. spk_1:   30:16Right? But here’s one for you, Rob. So that awareness that were you’re aware right now that’s the only true reality. Would there be a way to work with her animus? The only reality is actually that now, because if you think well, I’m thinking about the past. How to Work on Your Relationship. What’s inside? Men are nurtured and raised to suppress their feminine side to a degree, while women are nurtured and raised to suppress their masculine side to a degree. Vs who you know, who you consciously really want. The anima and animus can influence a person in either a positive or negative manner. Um what? And then we ran and we feel like this force makes us fall in love with the people that are wrong for us in a way. This very for ah, that kind of get into bar fights. So it’s like the fighting and the the you know, in any relationship, if you’re arguing all the time, you’re not really getting anywhere. We only see it when we’re really attracted to and heartbroken. Maybe he really didn’t want to know the answer. - Incompatible love languages or unawareness of differing personality types. spk_0:   52:14Yeah, yeah. That that was the function of mythology and ritual was to give us the opportunity to do that. And we’re smart and all those things and not, you know, a lot of drama. We create these conditions to it when we were younger, to protect ourselves or to think, you know, in a way, like we strategized the survival mechanisms and our toolkit to keep us from being trapped or from, you know, had a good intention. You have to take 100% responsibility that this is coming from my mind. You can’t transform the ego. And so that’s really what we’re trying to do is we’re trying to get make friends with this animus, but we really can’t get to it until you start doing shadow work. We are proud to be the founders of the International Jungian Coaching Association, an organization to help elevate Life Coach Training & Certifications in depth coaching model and spiritual psychology. What the mother says about the absence of the father, right? Can really show us that Well said. They they think that that is the totality of love. The earlier you start individual ation process, like in younger than when you know when you’re 60 year started, it’s it, kind of. Work is probably the hardest thing to do, and the hardest thing we’ll do is human beings. And then what man has the feminine force that he represses? Or it might be a need for for nurturing or taking care of. That’s what were designed for, like a bird is designed for flight. And then, like I said, I saw this whole pattern and it was like instantly turned something in me because then I realized I was the one creating it, and until you take responsibility for your love life. spk_1:   18:34Yes, yes, unfortunately, like we were saying. The Animus is the personification of all masculine psychological tendencies within a woman, the archetypal masculine symbolism within a woman's unconscious. And then there’s this filter of this shadow that kind of makes you fall in love with the people that match your pattern. Not the PST and him. But what is your response to that. It’s my dad’s issues, but really it was me rejecting the mother, the mother that caused the whole process of me being single toes in my forties and running away from all the nice guys just because I didn’t want to be trapped even though consciously, I thought I wanted to be a wife and I wanted Children, and I went in that role. Ah, and that plays out. We have some really great pricing for the mentor coaching. And that’s really where the change happens. How. The Archetypes of the Anima and Animus - Appliedjung One of the most interesting and provocative archetypes we encounter in Jungian Psychology is that of the Anima and Animus. spk_0:   11:38So, you know, one of things young talked about was that it’s, um it’s a force that’s autonomous, which means that it has kind of a life of its own. Anima, Animus, and the Magical Other. spk_0:   5:10Well, that’s why people that talk about hormones and biology of love, and that’s sort of taking the magic in the and the spiritually mystical aspects of romantic love. It’s not try to change the ego. So we need to be the mother and and And we So we choose that role. And so it has a spiritual component. And ah, And so when you do, you shadow work. Oh, yeah, it’s You could still have an experience of it. Yeah, So I I always say to my clients, I say, I don’t want ready. We, um getting full pretty fast. So, yes, a weakening is really important. Okay, the guy at the door. If we’re suppressing and denying that desire, So what we what, really the anima animus is that desire to connect. The Anima/Animus relates to our inner or soul life. Ah, it’s mixed up with the shadow because we if you. So if you’ve ever been in a fight with a man and you’re trying a woman’s trying to talk it out cause women the mat animus is the logic. Mm. It’s It’s very difficult. It’s almost like they, they, um, was a bait and switch. The best way to imagine the anima animus is to picture a yin-yang in your mind. spk_0:   33:41Yeah, a lot of Ah, you know, I’ve heard so many stories of men who have said I really you know, the woman scared him because he really had that strong feeling for her. It’s just those air, basically just different egos that you’ve re related to the soul level. And that’s kind of what we’re doing with these elements of ourselves. 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